you know, this is all absolutely “my generation” and absolutely my experience. but i have to admit, i’m pretty over it. the circs of my life made it necessary to be “hard to manage” for the men around me just to survive early on so i started pushing back way early. but the one thing that still makes me want to just shake the generation of women after me was when they kept saying “hillary clinton is not my kind of feminist, we don’t need to be that way anymore,” as if they had any clue at all what structural misogyny looked like.

well, they helped get trump elected and now they know that systemic misogyny is not their mother’s or their grandmother’s bad attitude. it is a deep, nasty cultural pathology. welcome to our world.

so i am happy to pass the “hair on fire” portion of the program to them, cause it’s been a load for the rest of us to carry. they’ve seen what happens when you assume you know things you don’t.